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“My hero’s have the heart to live the life I want to live…All I can remember is thinking I want to be like them.” – song: Crazy by: Ceelo Green

Happy, sad, angry, lonely are pretty common emotions. Envy and selfishness, these are common too, though often overlooked. They’re real. As real as the others. Do you wish to have something that doesn’t belong to you? Sure. Do you want something or someone all to yourself? Often. Envy leads to unattainable expectations. Living beyond your means, dating beyond your level (sorry, not sorry). That’s what I know about envy. Selfishness, I know much about. I am a selfish person.  I am selfish with my time and energy. I could be sitting right next to you and be miles away inside my head. I am selfish with the people I love and care about. If the vibe is right, why would we need a crowd?

I once heard someone say that people cry about the death of someone for their own selfish reasons. They cry because they are more concerned with now having to live their lives without that person. True, that does sound selfish. But why would that be a bad thing? If you enjoyed knowing the person, than you should miss them. Grief…that’s an emotion too. And at times it can seem a little selfish.

I knew of Anthony Bourdain the same as most folks did. Through the television screen. Every so often I would hear him on a podcast talk at length about his travels. He seemed to be this cool, mature, stoic, fun-loving, beer drinking, over-indulging man. He captured our attention while he traveled the globe seeing interesting places and meeting interesting people. He talked about customs, traditions, cooking, love, politics, and simply life. Nonchalantly he told you to step outside your bubble. See the world. Try new things. I wouldn’t call him my hero, but he definitely inspired me to broaden my horizons.

I write this post for my own selfish reasons, I guess. It sucks to know he won’t be out there, somewhere, exploring.

Death is always a delicate part of life to navigate. Words don’t always seem to fit.

Take care.

Keshia

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Fab 5

trap music

  • I love “secular” music and gospel

This is a tricky subject to navigate. There is that saying that you should be mindful of your thoughts. I do agree. The devil is always busy. However, there’s only so much Mary Mary, Hezekiah Walker, etc. that I can handle before I need Cardi B to save me from the remainder of my long work day. Besides nothing gets me through a run better than Drake telling me he’s proud of me!

“I know things get hard, but girl, you got it

Girl, you got it, there you go

Can’t you tell by how they looking at you everywhere you go?”

 

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  • Fitness is important

Physical activity is important. It’s just that plain and simple. I feel so sluggish and moody when I haven’t worked out in awhile. The endorphins that flow when I’ve done a good workout are great and help to keep me motivated. The older I get (thank da Lawd) the real-er my health has become. Could I live in the gym 5 days a week? That’s a “No” for me. Supplementing with long walks, quick jogs, zumba, and hitting the weights hard when I can make it to the gym will have to suffice. Exercise is a must.

MEDITATION

  • Self-Care is vital

I’m a loner. I am fully secure in myself as such…sometimes. I can spend an entire day rummaging through the thoughts in my head. From significant moments from childhood-to-awkward moments at the fast food drive through yesterday. The data-processor (AKA my mind) doesn’t seem to take a break. However, I also need those precious moments with people I love and also random interactions with strangers. The moments alone help me reflect and grow. The moments with others enrich my soul and allow me to learn by either listening or simply being present. Self-care for me can’t be about solitude alone. I have to regress into myself briefly. Then it’s time to dive into others and pick their brains. It’s all apart of growth.

 

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  • Love and Be Loved

Everyone expresses their love differently. Everyone wants love expressed to them differently. Being married has taught me to think less about what I want and how I want to be loved and to be mindful of what my husband needs. A few of our love languages are the same, but not all. Tuning into him has helped me become a better partner. Figuring out how to show him love the way he connects best with has helped me and above all it has helped us.

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  • I Crave Genuine People

One of my favorite podcasts seems so out of place in my entertainment schedule. I’ve been listening to this podcast for nearly 5 years. There’s cursing, vulgarity, hilarity, and the podcast is hosted by an ex-con turned comedian and his naive co-host. Above all those things, there is honesty and vulnerability.  Social media is full of people “faking the funk”. It is refreshing to hear the perspective of life from someone who isn’t trying to be someone else. To hear from someone who has lived a life and isn’t afraid to talk openly about the good and bad reminds me to stay grounded and to always be myself. I listened to several podcasts that offer that genuine flavor. I also seek it in my interactions with others, although I often end up empty-handed.

Just my Fab 5

Keshia

Skin Care Travel Essentials

So Glam

Maintaining healthy skin while traveling can seem like an impossible task. However, with the proper planning it doesn’t have to be. Here’s a list of items that can help you stay “fresh-faced” while on the go.

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  • Pore Strips

Pore strips are a life saver if you’re susceptible to blackheads like myself. They cling to oily pores and remove deep embedded oil and dirt. They come in several options with varying prices. They are easy to pack. Slip a package of pore strips into your carry-on bag and it should last you the duration of your trip.

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  • Exfoliator

Whether it’s a battery operated spin brush, a hand facial brush, or face wash with micro-beads, something to exfoliate your face is needed. Exfoliation helps to remove dead skin and pesky dirt. It also helps with blood circulation to areas of the face. Exfoliation is the best way to achieve glowing skin while on the road.

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  • Spot Acne Treatment

Pimples are no fun when traveling. The last thing you want when interacting with people is a mountain protruding through your skin. A handy spot acne treatment can help to minimize the look of your pimples and shorten their lifespan. Most spot acne treatments are inexpensive. Regardless of the price, it’s nice to have the insurance of having the product with you if needed.

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  • Cleaner/Astringent

Obviously one of the main keys to traveling with clear skin is making sure you cleanse your skin. Water, which is inexpensive and easily attainable, will typically suffice. If you feel you need something stronger, consider bringing a cleansing product that doubles as a toner. A good example of this is witch hazel. Witch hazel is a natural astringent that removes bacteria and balances the pH levels of the skin.

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  • Sunscreen

Sunscreen is an often overlooked element of good skin care. Protecting your skin from the sun is important. That goes for all shades of skin. Some can get away with a lower SPF number than others. Find one that works for you and your travel buddies. If you want to save room in your carry-on bag or luggage, consider purchasing your sunscreen at the hotel or hostel once you arrive at your destination.

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  • Oil Absorbing Sheets

Oil absorbing sheets have been a must-have for me when I travel. They’re so convenient. They are easy to pack and you can use them anywhere. If you have oily or combination skin, then you should consider throwing a pack in your purse, carry-on bag, or luggage.

  • Additional Things To Consider
  1. Drink Water – Avoid sugary drinks and juices. Some are sensitive to sugary, carbonated beverages. The results of too much sugar can show up on your skin.
  2. Loose Fitting Clothing – If you are prone to body acne then remember to wear loose fitting clothing that allows skin to breathe.
  3. Travel Size Bottles – Travel size bottles come in all shapes and colors. Most are TSA approved, so there is less worry about being pulled aside at the airport.

I hope you found these tips helpful. Safe travels!

Keshia

Hydro Boost Hydrating Face Mask with | Neutrogena – Review

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photo: neutrogena.com

The winter months can be brutal on skin. My combination skin really struggles during the cooler months of the year. The dry areas of my face are at the bridge of my nose and sometimes the areas extend to below my eyes. The rest of my face (the tip of my nose, cheeks, forehead, temples, and chin) is oily enough to fry chicken on, especially when I am PMS-ing.

In an effort to stay on top of my ever-evolving facial needs, lately I have upped the ante on my skin care routine. Once a week I treat myself to an “at-home-spa” which means I go all out with cleansing, exfoliating, and moisturizing my skin. I decided to try and review the Neutrogena Hydro Boost Hydrating Mask to see how well it works on my combination skin.

Neutrogena rolled out their Hydro Boost collection sometime in 2016. I will admit, I have little-to-no experience using Neutrogena products. I’ve always felt they were slightly expensive compared to other product lines and I didn’t feel compelled to spend the extra coins. The Hydro Boost collection is no exception. The reason it has taken me so long to try any of the featured products is because they do have a higher price point. When I noticed the single packets of the Neutrogena Hydro Boost Hydrating Masks were available at my local Wal-Mart for an affordable price I had to finally try it.

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photo: colormyfootsteps.com

Product Claims

This innovative hydrogel mask instantly quenches dry skin, leaving it hydrated, smooth, and supple. 

Notable Ingredients

  • PEG-60 Hydrogenated Castor Oil – surfactant that helps water mix with oil and dirt so they can be rinsed away
  • Tremella Fucicormis Sporocarp Extract – fungus extract used to stimulate cell growth
  • Hydrolyzed Hyaluronic Acid – powerful humectant used to plump and hydrate skin
  • Chondras Crispus (Carrageenan) Extract – red seaweed extract full of vitamins and minerals and used for UV ray protection

Application

This is actually the second time I have tried this mask. The first time I was over-whelmed with the application process. The mask comes in two halves. It is very slimy. My advice is to lightly squeeze the package after opening and empty out some of the excess product. This will help you grip the mask and apply it. The instructions state to leave the mask on for 15 to 30 minutes. The first time I used it I left it on for 30 minutes, and the second time I left it on for 15 minutes. Honestly, I think 15 minutes is more than enough.

My Results

This mask is very refreshing. The cooling sensation would feel great in the warmer months. After you remove the mask there is a light amount of product that remains on your face. Simply massage the remaining product into your skin. My face felt soft for hours after the application. Since this is a product that you will more than likely rinse off at the end of the day, the results don’t last. However, the Hydro Boost collection includes a hydrating cleanser, serum, and moisturizing gel so I believe using these products in combination would leave your skin highly hydrated for a longer period of time.

Since I liked the results I feel inclined to purchase and try several of the other items in this collection. I am especially considering using the Hydro Boost Eye Gel.

If you have used this product or any of the products in the Hydro Boost collection let me know!

 

 

Fellow Okie – Hillary Rankin

A love for food is the thing I have most in common with Hillary Rankin. Not only do we share a love for food, but we also share a love for curating our favorite things on a blog to share with everyone. Hillary is the brain, face, and architect behind 918plate.com, a blog showcasing her love for food.

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photo: 918plate.com

  • What’s your name?

Hillary Rankin

 

  • What is the name of your blog/website?

918 Plate, www.918plate.com

 

  • What city in Oklahoma do you call home?

Tulsa!

 

  • What’s your favorite thing about Oklahoma?

My favorite thing about Oklahoma is the people. My family is from the OKC area, and my grandmas are both there. The people I’ve met since living here as an adult have been lovely and hospitable. Tulsa is also packed with local and startup restaurants and food businesses, which I absolutely love.

 

  • Compared to other places you’ve traveled, what stands out most about Oklahoma?

Here in Oklahoma, the cities aren’t too big, but still have everything you need. There isn’t the hustle and bustle of being a bigger urban hub like a Dallas or Chicago, and I am still able to build relationships and connect with people to give it more of a tight-knit-community feel.

 

  • Tell me a little bit about your blog/website.

I started 918 Plate in the summer of 2015. It focuses on recipes made with local Oklahoma ingredients, spotlighting Oklahoma businesses or farms, as well as what you can grow in your own garden in Tulsa. I post once a week, on Tulsa Time Thursday.

 

  • Where do you find inspiration for your blog posts and/or updates to your website?

I love to use family recipes, because they always come with a story. But primarily, I try to use the inspiration of seasonal offerings to plan what I will be cooking!

 

  • How can people contact you?

www.918plate.com

You can find me @918Plate on Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram.

Facebook: www.facebook.com/918Plate

I am glad that I had the opportunity to feature Hillary as a Fellow Okie. Please check out her blog and find her on social media!

Tips For Self Care

The Working Mom

  • Cut Yourself Some Slack

We all make mistakes. It’s simply destined for we, as humans, to do so. Don’t spend your valuable time dwelling on those mistakes. Learn from them. Grow from them. Move on.

  • Make Fun A Priority

The day-to-day hustle can be very consuming. Try to mix it up a bit and find something extraordinary in the mundane. Put your favorite song on repeat. Go roller skating with your friends on a whim. Go swing on a swing-set. Enjoy life!

  • Pursue A Hobby

Do you like to paint? Maybe you used to love to collect comic books. Find a hobby to help you de-stress. Immersing yourself into something you love will allow you to find a sense of joy in your actions. It can also take your mind off stressful events.

TIPS FOR SELF CARE

  • Ask For Help When You Need It

It’s not always easy, but sometimes asking for help is necessary. If you feel yourself becoming overwhelmed at work or at home, ask for help. You don’t have to handle everything alone.

  • Prioritize What Matters Most

Make a list of the things that matter most to you and why. Make sure YOU fall within the top three on that list. That’s right. You need to make sure that you are a priority on your own list of importance. While you’re looking after everyone else, who is looking out for you? Take the time to prioritize your life.

What tips are you taking to make sure you’re practicing “Self Care” this year?

Thanks for reading!

Dañar (damage)

Some would say “change is good”. Even the one and only Stevie Nicks said,

“…But time makes you bolder
Even children get older
And I’m getting older, too.”

song Landslide

The season is changing here in Oklahoma. Fall is slowly evolving into winter. I personally am not a big fan of winter. However, this year I am determined to allow Mother Nature have its way. I am not in control. All I can do is prepare myself (hello new winter clothes). Of course, I will have a few gripes throughout the winter months (I am only human). The seasons changing are expected. Then there comes the unexpected changes like when you walk into a hair salon full of optimism and leave with bewilderment. Yes, I know that seems like an odd redirection. But I speak from personal experience. Change can be gradual or come out of nowhere and smack you in the face, then step back and dare you to react.

“Now what sucka?”

Yea, it can…well…suck. There’s no prep for those sudden changes. Sure we have insurance for accidents. We also have advice from other’s based on their own experiences. But it’s always the unexpected that we have no place of reference for or a guide to walk us through step-by-step. You have to shift your thinking, or approach, or even your entire mindset.

The only thing we can ever truly control is how we react to the things that happen to us or around us. Look on the bright side, reel in our emotions, or spin out of control. The choice is up to us.

Skip a Few Beats

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Coffee mug from Ida Red Boutique on Brookside.

Hey y’all!

I can’t help but quote music producer Timbaland when I say

“It’s been a long time…I shouldn’t have left with…without a dope beat to step to…”

I haven’t graced this beautiful blog with words handpicked from my brain in quite awhile. Don’t worry, no life-altering event has happened to me. However, changes needed to be made.

After our awesome trip to Denver, CO in March I was faced with a question. How am I prioritizing my life?

Just like most women I wear many hats. First, I am a wife. I also work a full-time job, 5 days a week (not mentioning overtime). I also have these cool hobbies (this blog, and YouTube videos), I am trying to finish writing my 2nd book (while still promoting my 1st). I contribute articles to a natural hair blog. I am a daughter and a sister. And of course I have to tack on going to the gym 2 to 3 times a week and squeezing in spending time with family and friends and well…at some point something has to give.

I realized the hard way that I cannot do it all and expect that effort to be 100 percent. No one can. Something will suffer. Your mental health, your physical health, your relationships, and/or your career, can easily begin to become harder and harder to manage.

So taking note of the draining path I was on I decided to take a break from certain things. The world isn’t going to crumble if I don’t get a blog post up, or a YouTube video uploaded. However, missing time with loved ones or giving a lackluster performance at work is not acceptable.

It comes down to balance. There’s a time and place for everything. Finding the time to do certain things and learning what to reschedule or even what to scrap.

I am definitely not walking away from the blog  (my baby). But there will be times when I’ll have to take a brief hiatus. Thank you all for understanding.

You’re awesome!