Stay in Your Lane

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My husband, David, told me some time ago that he noticed I always seem to be pressing forward. I thought about it, and it’s true. I’m always planning, editing the plan, and then planning again. Every once and a blue moon I actually execute the plan. And ever so often that execution leaves me empty-handed when it comes to results. The big “goose-egg”. I can always say that “I tried” but damn it still hurts.

“I guess I’m just not good enough”.

I will admit I have a tendency to count my losses more than my wins. I know, I know, it’s not good to focus on the negative. But I have a routine. I succumb to self-loathing, have my pity party, and then I become frustrated and a little angry. I have to let those failures fuel me.

Then, the process begins again. I don’t know why, but I have to try again.  Back to the drawing board. The disappointment becomes a memory. The heartache becomes a scar. I brush myself off and tip-toe back into incoming traffic.

“How will you know if you never try”?

Some might say that you have to stay in your lane. That would make sense if you want to become a famous singer and have no natural musical ability. I think that if you do have the ability, the heart, and a sprinkle of talent to do something, then you should go for it. Think of all the inventions we have today. If it were not for those inspired minds we would not have the modern conveniences we have today. Think about how life would be different if those inventors had given up and not continued. We would still be illuminating our homes by candlelight and riding horse and buggy to work. Now by no means am I a life changing inventor. It would be cool if I was, but I’m not. However, I am someone with aspirations for my life and what I want to contribute to society.

This blog post, for example, has taken me months to write. Admitting failures can be daunting in itself. When my first book made no waves last year, I wanted to curl up into a ball, throw my blankets over my head, and not resurface. I was reluctant to talk to anyone about it, and that includes David. Attempts to continue writing began but always came to a sudden halt. A part of me just couldn’t muster up the nerve to start writing again. Not to mention any form of writers block would send me into a downward spiral. However, like I mentioned I had to go through my process (even though my pity party lasted way too long). I can’t quit. I’ve already come too far. Being creative is my lane.

Maybe you’re like me. Your loss column is clearly tipping the scale. There is a “WTF” moment that happens within all of us at some point. I encourage you to keep going. Learn from your mistakes, make a plan, and begin again. Even though I hate cliché statements I have to leave you with one.

“If at first you don’t succeed try again.”

-Keshia

 

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Fellow Okie – Hillary Rankin

A love for food is the thing I have most in common with Hillary Rankin. Not only do we share a love for food, but we also share a love for curating our favorite things on a blog to share with everyone. Hillary is the brain, face, and architect behind 918plate.com, a blog showcasing her love for food.

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  • What’s your name?

Hillary Rankin

 

  • What is the name of your blog/website?

918 Plate, www.918plate.com

 

  • What city in Oklahoma do you call home?

Tulsa!

 

  • What’s your favorite thing about Oklahoma?

My favorite thing about Oklahoma is the people. My family is from the OKC area, and my grandmas are both there. The people I’ve met since living here as an adult have been lovely and hospitable. Tulsa is also packed with local and startup restaurants and food businesses, which I absolutely love.

 

  • Compared to other places you’ve traveled, what stands out most about Oklahoma?

Here in Oklahoma, the cities aren’t too big, but still have everything you need. There isn’t the hustle and bustle of being a bigger urban hub like a Dallas or Chicago, and I am still able to build relationships and connect with people to give it more of a tight-knit-community feel.

 

  • Tell me a little bit about your blog/website.

I started 918 Plate in the summer of 2015. It focuses on recipes made with local Oklahoma ingredients, spotlighting Oklahoma businesses or farms, as well as what you can grow in your own garden in Tulsa. I post once a week, on Tulsa Time Thursday.

 

  • Where do you find inspiration for your blog posts and/or updates to your website?

I love to use family recipes, because they always come with a story. But primarily, I try to use the inspiration of seasonal offerings to plan what I will be cooking!

 

  • How can people contact you?

www.918plate.com

You can find me @918Plate on Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram.

Facebook: www.facebook.com/918Plate

I am glad that I had the opportunity to feature Hillary as a Fellow Okie. Please check out her blog and find her on social media!

MY WINTER FAVES 2017

Hey everyone!

I’m trying my best to hold back and not do it…You know what I’m talking about, right? You know! Fine…

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Well, now that we got that out of the way…here are a few things that I am enjoying this winter season.

Hair:

NOW Solutions Grapeseed oil

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Face:

Maybelline Fit Me Foundation (Shade: cappuccino)

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Clothes:

Fruit of the Loom flannel pants

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Home:

Ceramic mugs from Ross Dress for Less

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disclaimer: I couldn’t find the ones I own. Sorry.

Entertainment:

Miguel – War and Leisure

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Here’s the video! Subscribe to the channel if you haven’t already!

Black Travel Bloggers You Should Know

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We out here y’all!

Black travel aficionado’s are all over. Thanks to social media platforms, like Instagram, it’s more common to see people of color from the USA hanging out and exploring foreign lands. I have to admit I smile from ear-to-ear when I see people who look like me boarding a flight to a different country or embracing different cultures where they don’t see a familiar face.

I decided to share some of the black travel buffs that I have come across through social media over the years.

Brian – Beyond BMore

 

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I stumbled upon Brian via a YouTuber I follow, TheChicNatural, a few years ago. If you can’t tell by the name, Brian is from Baltimore, MD. Years ago, Brian made the decision to explore beyond the dicey streets and neighborhoods he knew and see what the other streets, cities, and countries across the globe had to offer. Brian has traveled to 31 countries (feel free to say “Whoa”) and doesn’t look to be stopping anytime soon.

Ashlee – Will Drink For Travel

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The social media handle alone should make you smile Will Drink For Travel. Sign me up! I found Ashlee sometime ago, via Instagram, and was instantly intrigued. Ashlee provides her own perspective on travelling with one of the main focuses being tasty and flavorful food and of course drinks. Her website includes drink recipes, most inspired by different regions across the globe. Whether solo or in groups, she always seems to end up in the best places.

Tracey – Brooklyn Travel Addict

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Tracey may look familiar. I’ve featured her in a blog post before. If that’s not where you recall her face, then you may know her as one of the creative minds behind Curlfest. The annual event to celebrate curly hair. Tracey inspires me so much and I can’t help but to live vicariously through her social media posts, at least until I can do my own travelling. She always offers the best insight on places and events. From Cuba, India, and South Africa…she’s been there and done that.

Kellee – Kellee Set Go!

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I’ve been fan-girling over Kellee for quite sometime. She’s a pilot, deep-sea diver, and all around adrenaline junkie, and I love it. Did I mention she’s also the host of the Travel Channel show Mysterious Islands? She’s been to at least 35 countries. Yep, 35! To see a black woman accomplishing so much and not slowing down for a minute is exciting. If she doesn’t compel you to try new things, than I don’t know who will.

This list only scrapes the surface of black travel influencers out there. If you’re looking for inspiration or tips don’t hesitate to look these people up. There is so much more world out there than what we see with our own eyes everyday.

Thanks for reading!

 

 

Skip a Few Beats

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Coffee mug from Ida Red Boutique on Brookside.

Hey y’all!

I can’t help but quote music producer Timbaland when I say

“It’s been a long time…I shouldn’t have left with…without a dope beat to step to…”

I haven’t graced this beautiful blog with words handpicked from my brain in quite awhile. Don’t worry, no life-altering event has happened to me. However, changes needed to be made.

After our awesome trip to Denver, CO in March I was faced with a question. How am I prioritizing my life?

Just like most women I wear many hats. First, I am a wife. I also work a full-time job, 5 days a week (not mentioning overtime). I also have these cool hobbies (this blog, and YouTube videos), I am trying to finish writing my 2nd book (while still promoting my 1st). I contribute articles to a natural hair blog. I am a daughter and a sister. And of course I have to tack on going to the gym 2 to 3 times a week and squeezing in spending time with family and friends and well…at some point something has to give.

I realized the hard way that I cannot do it all and expect that effort to be 100 percent. No one can. Something will suffer. Your mental health, your physical health, your relationships, and/or your career, can easily begin to become harder and harder to manage.

So taking note of the draining path I was on I decided to take a break from certain things. The world isn’t going to crumble if I don’t get a blog post up, or a YouTube video uploaded. However, missing time with loved ones or giving a lackluster performance at work is not acceptable.

It comes down to balance. There’s a time and place for everything. Finding the time to do certain things and learning what to reschedule or even what to scrap.

I am definitely not walking away from the blog  (my baby). But there will be times when I’ll have to take a brief hiatus. Thank you all for understanding.

You’re awesome!

May Photo Wrap-Up 2017

Hey y’all hey!

I can’t believe it, but it’s the end of May! To be honest, I had a somewhat uneventful month. But none the less I took a few pictures here and there and put up a few videos!

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https://www.youtube.com/edit?o=U&video_id=wPvbL9zxWac

One of the most important things I did in May was celebrate Mother’s Day with my mom! We had a great time hanging out in downtown Tulsa at the Guthrie Green. We also had good food and great conversations.

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If you have been to downtown Tulsa lately than you must have noticed the addition of artwork on the walls of several buildings. I personally love the colorful additions to downtown. The artwork really brings a new energy to downtown Tulsa.

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My sweet tooth has been in overdrive lately. Although it’s still chocolate I decided to try a gluten free option. This one was actually pretty tasty.

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David and I stopped by the Bixby Barbecue Festival. We enjoyed great food (we really stuffed ourselves). If you are in the area, I suggest stopping by next year to see the festival and eat some great barbecue. The event is very family friendly.

I hope you had a great month of May. I look forward to awesome adventures in the month of June.

April Photo Wrap-Up 2017

Hey everyone!

The time has arrived once again for the monthly Photo Wrap-Up. So here’s a peek at what went on with me throughout the month of April!

Before I get carried away with this post I should mention my Spring Favorites video. Just in case you missed it!

Now on to the rest of April!

David and I visited the most iconic waterfall in Northeast Oklahoma, Natural Falls. The area was very beautiful and worth a trip if you’re in the area.

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photo: Colormyfootsteps

As you know, David and I are definitely foodies. We strayed away from our typical breakfast spot, Village Inn, and decided to eat at IHOP (Internal House of Pancakes). Let’s just say a buy one meal get one free coupon may have seductively influenced that decision.

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I am doing much better handling my stress levels at work. March was a hard month for me. However, I am pushing through. Like the saying goes, once you’ve hit the bottom the only place to go is UP!

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We enjoyed a wonderful Easter weekend. It was a little rainy, but that is typical for Oklahoma weather around this time. I can’t complain. I also began my manual car lessons. I never thought that I would be learning how to drive a stick shift in my 30’s.

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I got a much needed hair trim. Sometimes it’s the little things that really add up and make a difference. I am really enjoying my hair now. This natural hair journey is not always easy. There are times I get so frustrated but there are times that are completely great! You have to take the bad with the good. Enjoy the good times while you can.

Thank you guys for reading! You are awesome! YES YOU!

You can find Colormyfootsteps on Facebook and Instragram!

March Photo Wrap-Up 2017

Hey y’all

Well better late than never! Here is a my Photo Wrap-Up for March! Enjoy!

 

David and I had several date nights throughout March. It’s all about quality and not quantity.

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photo: Colormyfootsteps

Of course I have to show you what I have been nimbling on this month. Naturbox is a wonderful company if you are wanting to find new and tasty snacks.

David and I also made our first trip to Denver, CO.! We had a great time exploring the beautiful and friendly city.

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photo: Colormyfootsteps

It’s hard to have a post and not include at least one picture of the sunrise! If you haven’t taken a look at the sunrise lately than I encourage you to do so soon!

Since spring is now officially here, check out my Spring Faves video for the products I am enjoying!

Thanks for stopping by the blog! Have a wonderful April. You know what they say “April showers bring May flowers”.

 

 

Tulsa Food Tour 2.0 -Antoinette Baking Co. & Claud’s Hamburgers

Hey everyone!

David and I had a wonderful weekend while continuing the Tulsa Food Tour Edition 2.0! There’s nothing better than stuffing your face while checking out a new restaurant. The restaurants we tried this weekend were Antoinette Baking Company in downtown Tulsa and Claud’s Hamburgers on Brookside in Tulsa. Both locations were new to us. I mean, we heard of them but had never been. Antoinette Baking Company has been around for quite a few years and Claud’s has been a staple hamburger spot for decades.

  • Antoinette Baking Company – 207 N Main St., Tulsa, OK
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Chili Braised Pork Huevos Rancheros

The bakery/restaurant was very easy to find in the evolving downtown area of Tulsa. Nestled between breweries and galleries, Antoinette Baking Co. fits right into the downtown scene. I began following Antoinette Baking Co. on Instagram months ago and daily I would see yummy reminders of why I should stop by. Every weekend they serve brunch. David and I stopped in this past weekend to check the place out and we were pleasantly surprised. The venue was quaint but at the same time very open. There were tables, roomy booths and a small bar to dine at. But it is a first come first serve establishment on the seating. So unless you don’t mind waiting, I would suggest arriving a little early.

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Chili Braised Pork Tacos

The food was delicious! The presentation was nice, modern and clean. It was yummy to our eyes before it was yummy to our tummies. Which is always a great addition to the dining experience. We had a homemade raspberry pop-tart, strawberry muffin, Chili Braised Pork Huevos Rancheros and Chili Braised Pork Tacos. Everything tasted fresh. David and I were very pleased with our meal. Antoinette Baking Co. changes their brunch menu weekly so you always have an opportunity to try new things.

  • Claud’s Hamburgers – 3834 S Peoria, Tulsa, OK

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Claud’s Hamburgers is a staple of Brookside in Tulsa. A simple white and green building with a simple white and green sign. Walking into Claud’s you know you’re going to receive simple no-mess and no-frills food. And to this small town girl when it comes to something as American as the hamburger that’s how I want it…no frills. We were promptly greeted (by a young woman whom I can tell knew right away we were new to the spot). We ordered (me a cheeseburger, fries and a Dr. Pepper and David a bacon cheeseburger, fries and a Sprite) and sat down and waited on our food. In the 10 minutes we waited I knew this was going to be a place I would revisit. There was something about it. They had been cooking the same thing the same and for the most part on the same exact grill for years. They knew what they were doing. Our food was awesome. In fact, we should have split an order of fries instead of ordering two separate bundles because we got full pretty quick. If you ever have the time to swing by Claud’s I suggest you do.

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I don’t have to tell you all that this food tour has been terrific so far. We have really enjoyed trying some new restaurants. Stay tuned for the next installment and check out the Youtube channel!

January 2017 Photo Wrap-Up

Hey y’all!

The year 2017 is in full effect! The month is winding down and I can’t believe how quickly the days have flown by. I know it’s been awhile since my last Photo Wrap-Up but I haven’t given up on it entirely. So I’m back kicking off this years first collage of randomness from the month of January!

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I don’t know if I told you but my husband, David, loves his supplements. I joke with him that he is “pickling” himself. Every once in a while I decide to try one of his new additions to his health regimen. We began taking MCT oil. MCT stands for medium chain triglyceride. It’s a “healthy” fat that when ingested goes straight to your liver and your body uses it for fuel. I have been adding a teaspoon of it to my coffee a few times a week and so far so good. Check with me in a few months to see if I’m still on board the MCT oil train.

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Of course with the new year means a renewed sense of bettering yourself. Although I never entirely quit working out towards the end of 2016, I wasn’t necessarily in a workout groove. I am definitely kicking my workout regimen into high gear this year. Since I have such a sedentary job, it is important for me to make sure I remain active in my free time.

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Out with the old and in with the new! I have decided to update my living room decor. I am trying to be frugal in this endeavor. I’ve spent some time on Pinterest getting inspiration. This decor update is way overdue! You can see some of the items I have purchased here.

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Before I wrap this up I have to mention I celebrated another year on this earth. I turned 31 this year and had a wonderful time with loved ones celebrating. Turning 30 last year was a little tumultuous for me, but this year I felt excited about becoming a year older. If you’re concerned about getting up there in years you can check out my last post here.

Thanks for reading. I hope January was as good to you as it was to me. Have a wonderful February!